Working With Challenging Parents of Students With Special Needs
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Description
"This practical guide will help avert obstacles and clear the way for a healthy and productive working relationship that will benefit the individuals who are at the center of the enterprise—the children!"
—Lawrence Balter, Professor
New York University
"This book should be used by every teacher. School districts should be providing professional development classes and higher education should be addressing the challenging components of teaching that Gorman addresses."
—Mary Ellen Somers, Teacher
Kingsley Junior High School Normal, IL
Intimidated by an angry parent? Frustrated by a non supportive parent? Hands-on, specific solutions are now available to help you!
Most teaching programs do not cover how to handle difficult parents, especially parents of children with special needs. This book fills that gap, focusing both on dealing with specific problems and cultivating strong relationships with parents. In specific settings such as IEP meetings and transitional plan meetings, you will learn how to understand the parents' perspective while arming yourself with methods to address their concerns and move beyond conflict to true collaboration.
The book's contents, grounded in research as well as real-life experiences, include chapters to help you
- Generate alliances—not lawsuits—and examine such concepts as empathy, communication, and risk management
- Deal with specific problems, such as parents who are angry, non-participatory, or plaintive
- Work with groups with unique concerns, such as grandparents, foster parents, noncustodial parents, and homeless families
- Cultivate and maintain good collaborative relationships with parents
The easy-to-use layout first presents research and discusses the reasons behind particular problems, followed by clear main strategies to solving the problems and actions to avoid. A summary and questions at the end of each chapter, as well as the included extensive forms, let you examine your specific professional situation.
Contents
Preface
Preface
Acknowledgements
Acknowledgements
About the Author
About the Author
Dedication
Dedication
1. Generating Alliances…not Lawsuits
- Gaining Cooperation
- Developing Alliances
- Being Empathic
- Communicating Well
- Communicating Poorly
- Staying Out of Court
- Keeping Your Focus
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
2. Dealing with Anger
- Entering The Conflict Stage
- Understanding Anger
- Being Aware of Cultural Differences in Anger
- Dealing with The Openly Angry Parent
- Dealing with The Parent Who Is Always Angry
- Dealing with The Narcissistic Parent
- Ensuring Your Safety
- Main Principles for Dealing with Anger
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Anger
- What to Avoid
- Dealing with Anger ... Yours
- Going Beyond Anger
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
3. Dealing with Denial
- Understanding Denial
- Discriminating Between Denial and Defensiveness
- Dealing with Differences of Opinions
- Knowing When Denial is Harmful (and When It Is Not)
- Main Principles for Dealing with Denial
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Denial
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Denial
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
4. Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Recognizing the Context of Dissatisfaction
- Understanding Dissatisfaction
- Responding When Parents Reject the Individual Education Plan (IEP)
- Coping with the Consequences of Dissatisfaction
- Handling Mediation and Due Process Hearings
- Main Principles for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Working with Advocates
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Dissatisfaction
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
5. Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Sharing Teachers' Views
- Discerning Noninvolvement Versus Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation of Parents of Adolescents
- Being Sensitive to Concerns of Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Parents
- Main Principles for Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Suggestions for Increasing Parent Participation in Transition Planning
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Nonparticipation
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Resistance
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
6. Dealing with Mistrust
- Recognizing The Value of Trust
- Understanding Mistrust
- Acknowledging Other Reasons for Parental Mistrust
- Agreeing on an Individual Transition Plan (ITP)
- Preventing Mistrust
- Main Principles for Dealing with Mistrust
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Mistrust
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Mistrust
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
7. Working with Nontraditional Families
- Working with Grandparents
- Working with Noncustodial Parents
- Working with Foster Parents
- Working with Homeless Families
- Working with Families Where You Suspect Child Abuse or Neglect
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
8. Cultivating Collaborative Relationships
- Resolving Your Reservations
- Applying Cultural Considerations
- Starting at the Beginning
- Maintaining the Relationship
- Passing the Torch
- Promoting a Family-Friendly School
- Being Realistic
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
References
References
Table 1.1 Effective Communication Skills
Table 1.1 Effective Communication Skills
Table 1.2 Poor Communication Skills
Table 1.2 Poor Communication Skills
Table 2.1 Safety Tips for Teachers Meeting with Parents
Table 2.1 Safety Tips for Teachers Meeting with Parents
Resource A. Welcome Letter
Resource A. Welcome Letter
Resource B. Communication Log
Resource B. Communication Log
Resource C. Letter to Parents of Older Elementary Students
Resource C. Letter to Parents of Older Elementary Students
Resource D. Letter to Parents of Adolescents
Resource D. Letter to Parents of Adolescents
Resource E. Parent Observation Sheet
Resource E. Parent Observation Sheet
Resource F. Back-to-School Letter
Resource F. Back-to-School Letter
Resource G. Responsibilities of Team Members
Resource G. Responsibilities of Team Members
Resource H. Intake Conference Letter
Resource H. Intake Conference Letter
Resource I. Conference Summary Sheet
Resource I. Conference Summary Sheet
Resource J. Additional Resources
Resource J. Additional Resources
References
References
Index
Index
Additional materials
Description
"This practical guide will help avert obstacles and clear the way for a healthy and productive working relationship that will benefit the individuals who are at the center of the enterprise—the children!"
—Lawrence Balter, Professor
New York University
"This book should be used by every teacher. School districts should be providing professional development classes and higher education should be addressing the challenging components of teaching that Gorman addresses."
—Mary Ellen Somers, Teacher
Kingsley Junior High School Normal, IL
Intimidated by an angry parent? Frustrated by a non supportive parent? Hands-on, specific solutions are now available to help you!
Most teaching programs do not cover how to handle difficult parents, especially parents of children with special needs. This book fills that gap, focusing both on dealing with specific problems and cultivating strong relationships with parents. In specific settings such as IEP meetings and transitional plan meetings, you will learn how to understand the parents' perspective while arming yourself with methods to address their concerns and move beyond conflict to true collaboration.
The book's contents, grounded in research as well as real-life experiences, include chapters to help you
- Generate alliances—not lawsuits—and examine such concepts as empathy, communication, and risk management
- Deal with specific problems, such as parents who are angry, non-participatory, or plaintive
- Work with groups with unique concerns, such as grandparents, foster parents, noncustodial parents, and homeless families
- Cultivate and maintain good collaborative relationships with parents
The easy-to-use layout first presents research and discusses the reasons behind particular problems, followed by clear main strategies to solving the problems and actions to avoid. A summary and questions at the end of each chapter, as well as the included extensive forms, let you examine your specific professional situation.
Contents
Preface
Preface
Acknowledgements
Acknowledgements
About the Author
About the Author
Dedication
Dedication
1. Generating Alliances…not Lawsuits
- Gaining Cooperation
- Developing Alliances
- Being Empathic
- Communicating Well
- Communicating Poorly
- Staying Out of Court
- Keeping Your Focus
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
2. Dealing with Anger
- Entering The Conflict Stage
- Understanding Anger
- Being Aware of Cultural Differences in Anger
- Dealing with The Openly Angry Parent
- Dealing with The Parent Who Is Always Angry
- Dealing with The Narcissistic Parent
- Ensuring Your Safety
- Main Principles for Dealing with Anger
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Anger
- What to Avoid
- Dealing with Anger ... Yours
- Going Beyond Anger
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
3. Dealing with Denial
- Understanding Denial
- Discriminating Between Denial and Defensiveness
- Dealing with Differences of Opinions
- Knowing When Denial is Harmful (and When It Is Not)
- Main Principles for Dealing with Denial
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Denial
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Denial
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
4. Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Recognizing the Context of Dissatisfaction
- Understanding Dissatisfaction
- Responding When Parents Reject the Individual Education Plan (IEP)
- Coping with the Consequences of Dissatisfaction
- Handling Mediation and Due Process Hearings
- Main Principles for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Working with Advocates
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Dissatisfaction
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
5. Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Sharing Teachers' Views
- Discerning Noninvolvement Versus Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation of Parents of Adolescents
- Being Sensitive to Concerns of Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Parents
- Main Principles for Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Suggestions for Increasing Parent Participation in Transition Planning
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Nonparticipation
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Resistance
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
6. Dealing with Mistrust
- Recognizing The Value of Trust
- Understanding Mistrust
- Acknowledging Other Reasons for Parental Mistrust
- Agreeing on an Individual Transition Plan (ITP)
- Preventing Mistrust
- Main Principles for Dealing with Mistrust
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Mistrust
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Mistrust
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
7. Working with Nontraditional Families
- Working with Grandparents
- Working with Noncustodial Parents
- Working with Foster Parents
- Working with Homeless Families
- Working with Families Where You Suspect Child Abuse or Neglect
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
8. Cultivating Collaborative Relationships
- Resolving Your Reservations
- Applying Cultural Considerations
- Starting at the Beginning
- Maintaining the Relationship
- Passing the Torch
- Promoting a Family-Friendly School
- Being Realistic
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
References
References
Table 1.1 Effective Communication Skills
Table 1.1 Effective Communication Skills
Table 1.2 Poor Communication Skills
Table 1.2 Poor Communication Skills
Table 2.1 Safety Tips for Teachers Meeting with Parents
Table 2.1 Safety Tips for Teachers Meeting with Parents
Resource A. Welcome Letter
Resource A. Welcome Letter
Resource B. Communication Log
Resource B. Communication Log
Resource C. Letter to Parents of Older Elementary Students
Resource C. Letter to Parents of Older Elementary Students
Resource D. Letter to Parents of Adolescents
Resource D. Letter to Parents of Adolescents
Resource E. Parent Observation Sheet
Resource E. Parent Observation Sheet
Resource F. Back-to-School Letter
Resource F. Back-to-School Letter
Resource G. Responsibilities of Team Members
Resource G. Responsibilities of Team Members
Resource H. Intake Conference Letter
Resource H. Intake Conference Letter
Resource I. Conference Summary Sheet
Resource I. Conference Summary Sheet
Resource J. Additional Resources
Resource J. Additional Resources
References
References
Index
Index
Additional materials
Reviews
March 2004 | 192 pages | Corwin
| Format | Published Date | ISBN | Price |
|---|---|---|---|
| Hardcover | 27/02/2023 | 9780761939276 | $87.95 |
| Paperback | 27/02/2023 | 9780761939283 | $39.95 |
| Lifetime | 27/02/2023 | 9781483360553 | $36.00 |
"This practical guide will help avert obstacles and clear the way for a healthy and productive working relationship that will benefit the individuals who are at the center of the enterprise—the children!"
—Lawrence Balter, Professor
New York University
"This book should be used by every teacher. School districts should be providing professional development classes and higher education should be addressing the challenging components of teaching that Gorman addresses."
—Mary Ellen Somers, Teacher
Kingsley Junior High School Normal, IL
Intimidated by an angry parent? Frustrated by a non supportive parent? Hands-on, specific solutions are now available to help you!
Most teaching programs do not cover how to handle difficult parents, especially parents of children with special needs. This book fills that gap, focusing both on dealing with specific problems and cultivating strong relationships with parents. In specific settings such as IEP meetings and transitional plan meetings, you will learn how to understand the parents' perspective while arming yourself with methods to address their concerns and move beyond conflict to true collaboration.
The book's contents, grounded in research as well as real-life experiences, include chapters to help you
- Generate alliances—not lawsuits—and examine such concepts as empathy, communication, and risk management
- Deal with specific problems, such as parents who are angry, non-participatory, or plaintive
- Work with groups with unique concerns, such as grandparents, foster parents, noncustodial parents, and homeless families
- Cultivate and maintain good collaborative relationships with parents
The easy-to-use layout first presents research and discusses the reasons behind particular problems, followed by clear main strategies to solving the problems and actions to avoid. A summary and questions at the end of each chapter, as well as the included extensive forms, let you examine your specific professional situation.
Table Of Contents:
- Preface
- Acknowledgements
- About the Author
- Dedication
- 1. Generating Alliances…not Lawsuits
- Gaining Cooperation
- Developing Alliances
- Being Empathic
- Communicating Well
- Communicating Poorly
- Staying Out of Court
- Keeping Your Focus
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 2. Dealing with Anger
- Entering The Conflict Stage
- Understanding Anger
- Being Aware of Cultural Differences in Anger
- Dealing with The Openly Angry Parent
- Dealing with The Parent Who Is Always Angry
- Dealing with The Narcissistic Parent
- Ensuring Your Safety
- Main Principles for Dealing with Anger
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Anger
- What to Avoid
- Dealing with Anger ... Yours
- Going Beyond Anger
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 3. Dealing with Denial
- Understanding Denial
- Discriminating Between Denial and Defensiveness
- Dealing with Differences of Opinions
- Knowing When Denial is Harmful (and When It Is Not)
- Main Principles for Dealing with Denial
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Denial
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Denial
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 4. Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Recognizing the Context of Dissatisfaction
- Understanding Dissatisfaction
- Responding When Parents Reject the Individual Education Plan (IEP)
- Coping with the Consequences of Dissatisfaction
- Handling Mediation and Due Process Hearings
- Main Principles for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Dissatisfaction
- Working with Advocates
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Dissatisfaction
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 5. Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Sharing Teachers' Views
- Discerning Noninvolvement Versus Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation
- Understanding Nonparticipation of Parents of Adolescents
- Being Sensitive to Concerns of Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Parents
- Main Principles for Dealing with Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Suggestions for Increasing Parent Participation in Transition Planning
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Nonparticipation
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Resistance
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Nonparticipation and Resistance
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 6. Dealing with Mistrust
- Recognizing The Value of Trust
- Understanding Mistrust
- Acknowledging Other Reasons for Parental Mistrust
- Agreeing on an Individual Transition Plan (ITP)
- Preventing Mistrust
- Main Principles for Dealing with Mistrust
- Other Strategies for Dealing with Mistrust
- What to Avoid
- Going Beyond Mistrust
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 7. Working with Nontraditional Families
- Working with Grandparents
- Working with Noncustodial Parents
- Working with Foster Parents
- Working with Homeless Families
- Working with Families Where You Suspect Child Abuse or Neglect
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- 8. Cultivating Collaborative Relationships
- Resolving Your Reservations
- Applying Cultural Considerations
- Starting at the Beginning
- Maintaining the Relationship
- Passing the Torch
- Promoting a Family-Friendly School
- Being Realistic
- Reflecting on Your Teaching
- Summary
- References
- Table 1.1 Effective Communication Skills
- Table 1.2 Poor Communication Skills
- Table 2.1 Safety Tips for Teachers Meeting with Parents
- Resource A. Welcome Letter
- Resource B. Communication Log
- Resource C. Letter to Parents of Older Elementary Students
- Resource D. Letter to Parents of Adolescents
- Resource E. Parent Observation Sheet
- Resource F. Back-to-School Letter
- Resource G. Responsibilities of Team Members
- Resource H. Intake Conference Letter
- Resource I. Conference Summary Sheet
- Resource J. Additional Resources
- References
- Index