Getting Beyond Bullying and Exclusion, PreK-5

Empowering Children in Inclusive Classrooms
Ronald Mah - Independent Consultant and Trainer
Getting Beyond Bullying and Exclusion, PreK-5
October 2009 | 152 pages | Corwin
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"This is the first text I've read that connected specific disabilities to bullying. The material is informative, relevant, and thought-provoking. A useful tool in understanding the evolution of a bully and the necessity of early, appropriate intervention."
—Karen Thomes, Early Childhood Special Educator
Indian Island School, ME

Help students with special needs develop skills for meeting the challenges of bullying!

Children with challenges can encounter difficulties in navigating their journeys within mainstream classrooms. This book focuses on the vulnerabilities of youngsters to be bullied, especially those with learning disabilities, attention deficit hyperactive disorder, Asperger syndrome, and gifted abilities, and also discusses the tendencies for these children to become bullies.

Getting Beyond Bullying and Exclusion, PreK–5 deepens teachers' understanding of common challenges and provides an intimate and realistic view of how children with special needs can become easy targets for bullies. The book also shows how adults can inadvertently facilitate development of victim behavior in children or contribute to the development of bully personalities. With an abundance of tried-and-true techniques for helping children manage emotions and build on their strengths, this book examines:

  • Bullying styles, including classic male and female models
  • How teachers can prevent and stop bullying
  • Methods for intervening early before a negative dynamic progresses into middle or high school
  • Strategies for working with overprotective parents
  • A "90-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan" to improve children's self-views

Ideal for both teachers and counselors, this book increases the sensitivity and expertise that educators need to help children with special needs become more resilient and experience success at school.

Contents

Acknowledgments

Acknowledgments

About the Author

About the Author

Introduction

  • Inclusion Means...
  • Inclusion Means More
  • Inclusion Means Less
  • Educational Challenge
  • Exclusion...and Bullying
  • Compromising the Intent of Inclusion
  • Continuums or Labels
  • Three Perspectives
  • 1. Inclusion, Exclusion, and Bullying
  • The Chicken Spends Its Whole Life...
  • The Hawk Spends Its Whole Life...
  • Anxious Vulnerability
  • Please Please Please...
  • The Loud Aggressive "Victim" Becomes a Bully
  • Victim Entitlement to Bully and Intellectual Bullying
  • Classification Creates Targets for Exclusion
  • 2. The Stress, Frustrate, Fail, Suffer Method and Emotional Intelligence
  • The Real World
  • The First S Is for Stress--Stress 'Em!
  • The First F Is for Frustration--Frustrate 'Em!
  • F Is for Failure--Let 'Em Fail! (Make Sure They Fail!)
  • The Second S Is for Suffer--Let 'Em Suffer
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • 3. Create Powerful and Successful Children
  • Win So He Would Throw a Tantrum
  • The Next SS Is for Sensitivity and Support
  • The Next SS Is for Skills and Strength
  • SF Is for Survive and Flourish
  • 4. Social Cues
  • Who Is This Kid?
  • Reasons Individuals Don't Get it!
  • 5. Reasons for Missing Social Cues
  • Physical Disability--Compensation (No.2 of 11): "What? Huh?"
  • Cross-Culture Issues--Cross-Culture Education (No. 3 of 11): "So that's what you mean!"
  • Overstimulation--De-Stress (No. 4 of 11): "I'm tired. I don' wanna have fun!"
  • Denial--Alleviate Fear (no. 5 of 11): "Nah, nah, nah!"
  • Anxiety--Stabilize and Secure (No. 6 of 11): "What? Where? Watch out? Where? Now? Oh no!"
  • Neurosis--Reality Filter or Check (No. 7 of 11): "That was then, and this is then."
  • Dissassociation--Trauma Work (No. 8 of 11): "Click...This station is no longer broadcasting...or receiving."
  • Learning Dissabilities--Compensation (No. 9 of 11): "Trying hard, harder, and harder..."
  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (and Attention Deficit Disorder)--Focus (No. 10 of 11): "Attention wanders..."
  • Intoxication and Substance Abuse--Sobriety (No. 11 of 11): "Common adverse effects..."
  • 6. The Victim Dynamic
  • Why Do You Pick Up Crying Babies?
  • Victimized by Victims
  • Reversing the Dual Theory of Frailty
  • How Victims Are Created
  • 7. Creating Bullies
  • A Blustering, Browbeating Person
  • Bullies, Aggression, and the Search for Self-Esteem
  • "Who Are you Looking At!?"
  • "Huh? What?"
  • 8. Relational Aggression
  • "You Can't Come to My Birthday Party"
  • What Do You Mean..."We?"
  • 9. Frustration to Resentment to Aggresstion
  • Lost Self-Esteem
  • Bullies With Learning Disabilities
  • Bullies With ADHD
  • 10. Arrogance and Entitlement
  • Bullies With Asperger Syndrome
  • Bullies With Gifted Abilities
  • 11. Motivation and Survival
  • Adult Stress, Frustration, Failure (and Suffering)
  • "Or Else What?"
  • Internalized Motivation
  • Cultural Characteristics of Children With Challenges

Conclusion

  • The Ninety-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan
  • A Last Thought

References

References

Index

Index

Description

"This is the first text I've read that connected specific disabilities to bullying. The material is informative, relevant, and thought-provoking. A useful tool in understanding the evolution of a bully and the necessity of early, appropriate intervention."
—Karen Thomes, Early Childhood Special Educator
Indian Island School, ME

Help students with special needs develop skills for meeting the challenges of bullying!

Children with challenges can encounter difficulties in navigating their journeys within mainstream classrooms. This book focuses on the vulnerabilities of youngsters to be bullied, especially those with learning disabilities, attention deficit hyperactive disorder, Asperger syndrome, and gifted abilities, and also discusses the tendencies for these children to become bullies.

Getting Beyond Bullying and Exclusion, PreK–5 deepens teachers' understanding of common challenges and provides an intimate and realistic view of how children with special needs can become easy targets for bullies. The book also shows how adults can inadvertently facilitate development of victim behavior in children or contribute to the development of bully personalities. With an abundance of tried-and-true techniques for helping children manage emotions and build on their strengths, this book examines:

  • Bullying styles, including classic male and female models
  • How teachers can prevent and stop bullying
  • Methods for intervening early before a negative dynamic progresses into middle or high school
  • Strategies for working with overprotective parents
  • A "90-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan" to improve children's self-views

Ideal for both teachers and counselors, this book increases the sensitivity and expertise that educators need to help children with special needs become more resilient and experience success at school.

Contents

Acknowledgments

Acknowledgments

About the Author

About the Author

Introduction

  • Inclusion Means...
  • Inclusion Means More
  • Inclusion Means Less
  • Educational Challenge
  • Exclusion...and Bullying
  • Compromising the Intent of Inclusion
  • Continuums or Labels
  • Three Perspectives
  • 1. Inclusion, Exclusion, and Bullying
  • The Chicken Spends Its Whole Life...
  • The Hawk Spends Its Whole Life...
  • Anxious Vulnerability
  • Please Please Please...
  • The Loud Aggressive "Victim" Becomes a Bully
  • Victim Entitlement to Bully and Intellectual Bullying
  • Classification Creates Targets for Exclusion
  • 2. The Stress, Frustrate, Fail, Suffer Method and Emotional Intelligence
  • The Real World
  • The First S Is for Stress--Stress 'Em!
  • The First F Is for Frustration--Frustrate 'Em!
  • F Is for Failure--Let 'Em Fail! (Make Sure They Fail!)
  • The Second S Is for Suffer--Let 'Em Suffer
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • 3. Create Powerful and Successful Children
  • Win So He Would Throw a Tantrum
  • The Next SS Is for Sensitivity and Support
  • The Next SS Is for Skills and Strength
  • SF Is for Survive and Flourish
  • 4. Social Cues
  • Who Is This Kid?
  • Reasons Individuals Don't Get it!
  • 5. Reasons for Missing Social Cues
  • Physical Disability--Compensation (No.2 of 11): "What? Huh?"
  • Cross-Culture Issues--Cross-Culture Education (No. 3 of 11): "So that's what you mean!"
  • Overstimulation--De-Stress (No. 4 of 11): "I'm tired. I don' wanna have fun!"
  • Denial--Alleviate Fear (no. 5 of 11): "Nah, nah, nah!"
  • Anxiety--Stabilize and Secure (No. 6 of 11): "What? Where? Watch out? Where? Now? Oh no!"
  • Neurosis--Reality Filter or Check (No. 7 of 11): "That was then, and this is then."
  • Dissassociation--Trauma Work (No. 8 of 11): "Click...This station is no longer broadcasting...or receiving."
  • Learning Dissabilities--Compensation (No. 9 of 11): "Trying hard, harder, and harder..."
  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (and Attention Deficit Disorder)--Focus (No. 10 of 11): "Attention wanders..."
  • Intoxication and Substance Abuse--Sobriety (No. 11 of 11): "Common adverse effects..."
  • 6. The Victim Dynamic
  • Why Do You Pick Up Crying Babies?
  • Victimized by Victims
  • Reversing the Dual Theory of Frailty
  • How Victims Are Created
  • 7. Creating Bullies
  • A Blustering, Browbeating Person
  • Bullies, Aggression, and the Search for Self-Esteem
  • "Who Are you Looking At!?"
  • "Huh? What?"
  • 8. Relational Aggression
  • "You Can't Come to My Birthday Party"
  • What Do You Mean..."We?"
  • 9. Frustration to Resentment to Aggresstion
  • Lost Self-Esteem
  • Bullies With Learning Disabilities
  • Bullies With ADHD
  • 10. Arrogance and Entitlement
  • Bullies With Asperger Syndrome
  • Bullies With Gifted Abilities
  • 11. Motivation and Survival
  • Adult Stress, Frustration, Failure (and Suffering)
  • "Or Else What?"
  • Internalized Motivation
  • Cultural Characteristics of Children With Challenges

Conclusion

  • The Ninety-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan
  • A Last Thought

References

References

Index

Index

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"This is the first text I've read that connected specific disabilities to bullying. The material is informative, relevant, and thought-provoking. A useful tool in understanding the evolution of a bully and the necessity of early, appropriate intervention."
—Karen Thomes, Early Childhood Special Educator
Indian Island School, ME

Help students with special needs develop skills for meeting the challenges of bullying!

Children with challenges can encounter difficulties in navigating their journeys within mainstream classrooms. This book focuses on the vulnerabilities of youngsters to be bullied, especially those with learning disabilities, attention deficit hyperactive disorder, Asperger syndrome, and gifted abilities, and also discusses the tendencies for these children to become bullies.

Getting Beyond Bullying and Exclusion, PreK–5 deepens teachers' understanding of common challenges and provides an intimate and realistic view of how children with special needs can become easy targets for bullies. The book also shows how adults can inadvertently facilitate development of victim behavior in children or contribute to the development of bully personalities. With an abundance of tried-and-true techniques for helping children manage emotions and build on their strengths, this book examines:

  • Bullying styles, including classic male and female models
  • How teachers can prevent and stop bullying
  • Methods for intervening early before a negative dynamic progresses into middle or high school
  • Strategies for working with overprotective parents
  • A "90-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan" to improve children's self-views

Ideal for both teachers and counselors, this book increases the sensitivity and expertise that educators need to help children with special needs become more resilient and experience success at school.


Table Of Contents:

  • Acknowledgments
  • About the Author
  • Introduction
  • Inclusion Means...
  • Inclusion Means More
  • Inclusion Means Less
  • Educational Challenge
  • Exclusion...and Bullying
  • Compromising the Intent of Inclusion
  • Continuums or Labels
  • Three Perspectives
  • 1. Inclusion, Exclusion, and Bullying
  • The Chicken Spends Its Whole Life...
  • The Hawk Spends Its Whole Life...
  • Anxious Vulnerability
  • Please Please Please...
  • The Loud Aggressive "Victim" Becomes a Bully
  • Victim Entitlement to Bully and Intellectual Bullying
  • Classification Creates Targets for Exclusion
  • 2. The Stress, Frustrate, Fail, Suffer Method and Emotional Intelligence
  • The Real World
  • The First S Is for Stress--Stress 'Em!
  • The First F Is for Frustration--Frustrate 'Em!
  • F Is for Failure--Let 'Em Fail! (Make Sure They Fail!)
  • The Second S Is for Suffer--Let 'Em Suffer
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • 3. Create Powerful and Successful Children
  • Win So He Would Throw a Tantrum
  • The Next SS Is for Sensitivity and Support
  • The Next SS Is for Skills and Strength
  • SF Is for Survive and Flourish
  • 4. Social Cues
  • Who Is This Kid?
  • Reasons Individuals Don't Get it!
  • 5. Reasons for Missing Social Cues
  • Physical Disability--Compensation (No.2 of 11): "What? Huh?"
  • Cross-Culture Issues--Cross-Culture Education (No. 3 of 11): "So that's what you mean!"
  • Overstimulation--De-Stress (No. 4 of 11): "I'm tired. I don' wanna have fun!"
  • Denial--Alleviate Fear (no. 5 of 11): "Nah, nah, nah!"
  • Anxiety--Stabilize and Secure (No. 6 of 11): "What? Where? Watch out? Where? Now? Oh no!"
  • Neurosis--Reality Filter or Check (No. 7 of 11): "That was then, and this is then."
  • Dissassociation--Trauma Work (No. 8 of 11): "Click...This station is no longer broadcasting...or receiving."
  • Learning Dissabilities--Compensation (No. 9 of 11): "Trying hard, harder, and harder..."
  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (and Attention Deficit Disorder)--Focus (No. 10 of 11): "Attention wanders..."
  • Intoxication and Substance Abuse--Sobriety (No. 11 of 11): "Common adverse effects..."
  • 6. The Victim Dynamic
  • Why Do You Pick Up Crying Babies?
  • Victimized by Victims
  • Reversing the Dual Theory of Frailty
  • How Victims Are Created
  • 7. Creating Bullies
  • A Blustering, Browbeating Person
  • Bullies, Aggression, and the Search for Self-Esteem
  • "Who Are you Looking At!?"
  • "Huh? What?"
  • 8. Relational Aggression
  • "You Can't Come to My Birthday Party"
  • What Do You Mean..."We?"
  • 9. Frustration to Resentment to Aggresstion
  • Lost Self-Esteem
  • Bullies With Learning Disabilities
  • Bullies With ADHD
  • 10. Arrogance and Entitlement
  • Bullies With Asperger Syndrome
  • Bullies With Gifted Abilities
  • 11. Motivation and Survival
  • Adult Stress, Frustration, Failure (and Suffering)
  • "Or Else What?"
  • Internalized Motivation
  • Cultural Characteristics of Children With Challenges
  • Conclusion
  • The Ninety-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan
  • A Last Thought
  • References
  • Index

Recent Product Reviews:

“An honest and thought-provoking discussion exploring ways we can teach and support children to help them develop into capable learners and caring humans. Mah provides straight talk on how inclusion provides benefits but also many hurdles. To be truly inclusive, we have to recognize differences rather than ignore them, while teaching our students to develop better problem-solving and coping skills through strong adult support and reframing their experiences. Whether the victim or bully, all students need a better adult-supported framework for learning to work with their peers."
Michelle Garcia Winner, Speech Language Pathologist and Social Cognitive Specialist, The Social Thinking Center
“This is the first text I've read that connected specific disabilities to bullying. The material is informative, relevant, and thought-provoking. A useful tool in understanding the evolution of a bully and the necessity of early, appropriate intervention.”
Karen Thomes, Early Childhood Special Educator, Indian Island School, ME
“What wonderful insight Mah has into the workings of classrooms. This book applies to all children. This is a valuable read for both parents and teachers. I have been in education for over thirty years and found this book very beneficial. I loved the 90-Second-a-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan. Thank you!”
Kathy Gallagher, Kindergarten Teacher, St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, St. Louis, MO
"I have been a therapist working primarily with children for more than 20 years, and I'm grateful to see issues about bullying given serious attention. The subtle and often devastating effects of children’s abusive behavior to one another can have enormous ramifications, yet for too long even professional adults have dismissed much of this behavior as being 'normal.' I am glad to see the research and detail that has gone into this book. All bullying needs to be monitored and addressed so children are able to see how their behavior affects others, learn new strategies to interact with peers, and get their needs met in healthier ways.”
Kim Meinke, Licensed Mental Health Counselor

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